There is much good therapeutic use of kink and fetish passtimes, and the freedom they give, spiritually, physically, mentally.Ī massage or training session can become an intro to bdsm, kink, fetish play, and that is OK. I have been doing massage and training for over 30 years, and in the Leather Community for about 20. My environment is secure, safe, confidential, private men respond to that, be they gay, bi, trans, str8, curious, whatever.Īsking about my stuff is perfectly fine. Sometimes when a client comes to me for massage, for back/shoulder/neck/pelvic-sciatica reasons, for postural correction, and for personal training/Pilates/TRX work, and they see some of my Leathers, they are intrigued, and after a bit they will start to ask questions. I've always enjoyed what I do because most men who want "massage" from a ***y guy are actually much more interested in the pure physicality of man-to-man erotic contact with sensitivity, and THAT is my specialty! I explained to them that nervousness is just another form of excitement in disguise. Men would arrive nervous and excited at the same time, but quickly felt at east with me.
Many men wanted more of it, so I started inviting them to come have private sessions with me at my cottage-not the same night we met, but the next day, in the afternoon sunlight. They asked me "How did you do that?" and I told them that I did it through focus and intention. Sometimes, even amidst the pounding music and lights, it felt like we were alone in the forest. Some guys would notice that when we hugged, it felt like the world around us disappeared, and we were completely alone. My favorite way to raise the energy level of the bar on a slow night was to walk around and offer hugs to men in my underwear :-). YEAH! I was working as a go-go man in a popular gay bar in Key West.